FAMILY

What is the fastest way to isolate and break down a person? Break up their family.

WHY? 

Because it is the one place on this earth where TRUE love should exist.

You know what bothers me a lot? Knowing that I live in a country where the divorce rate is ONE out of TWO marriages (Department of Justice, Child Support Initiative, Evaluation Report, 1997). That means that when you get married in Canada, you only have a 50% chance of staying with your partner. WHAT. THE. HECK.


Which means I'm going to fight against it by getting married in another country! Hahaha.


But all jokes aside, here are more disturbing facts about the divorce rates in Canada:

• almost 75% of Canadian divorces are being initiated by women
• one yr after separation or divorce, 50% of children of divorced or separated families never see their fathers again
• risk of divorce increases greatly after each successive marriage (75% for 2nd, and about 85% for 3rd marriages)
• 75% of divorced men remarry while 65% of divorced women remarry

What is happening to this world? The importance of exchanging vows and making promises til death do they part have obviously deteriorated. Is that why a lot of people walk around so empty? Breaking the sanctity of marriage can really suck the life out of a family that was once so rooted in faith, love and hope. No wonder people have ridiculous commitment issues here in North America. No wonder less couples want to bother getting married.

For the youth of today:

Let us take love more seriously. Let's not use that word so loosely. It really bothers me when young couples just throw it around like it's nothing. To be honest I've never told someone "I love you". As much as I've put myself in so many dumb sweet nothings type of relationships I always had enough sanity left in me to hold back on those three words. And trust me, I can openly admit that I've felt really intensely for a couple men BOYS in my life. Not happy about my "track record" but definitely happy that I've held off on the most important parts that should only happen in a long-term relationship.  

I will repeat this again because it's so darn IMPORTANT!!!!!!!

• MEN: Please learn to take care of the women in your life. Know what you want before getting into anything serious. Stop brushing off wounded hearts like it's nothing. That's someone's SOUL you're playing with. What this world needs from you is your strength. Stop being cowards. Stop giving out false commitments when you know deep down inside that you are not able to give them what you're giving them hope about. Filter your words. Filter your promises. And for crying out loud, filter out the intentions of what's inside your pants. 

• WOMEN: Let's stop being stupid. Let's not settle for short-term purposes. Stop jumping into a commitment-free relationship- Know your worth. Stop trying to place your value in the hands of a man. Why do you keep giving so much of yourself to someone you know isn't going to stay in your life forever (BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF). Stop letting your heart decide for you- consult your brain too. Think about how much your mind changes when you're on your period (seriously). You know you shouldn't have eaten that whole tub of ice cream, but you did. You know you shouldn't have overindulged in shopping when your bank account was running low, but you did. Why? Cos it felt good at that time. It just feels so damn good at that moment, but then later on we get tummy aches and our bank account doesn't recover as quickly as we had initially hoped. That feeling of regret that starts to cover you from head to toe right after you did these things- remember it. It's the same with our relationships. Start using your brain more often. Be reasonable.

Let us keep praying that more families find the strength to stay together. Let's keep praying that husbands and wives stop giving up so easily on each other and can find remember why they fell in love with their partners in the first place. Their vows should be remembered every day of their life so that when trials and tribulations come their way, they will learn to look to each other for help instead of seeking it out in other "third parties".

Let us not give up on the future. We can help to change these percentages. It is up to us to clean up this mess. At this rate, by the time our children get married, will the chance of successful marriages be reduced to 10%? Let's not wait for that to happen.