You will be Captivating to those who are Wild at Heart

Message to all the guys out there: Do you know how many times I've had to confront a guy about their intentions and all I got was a "you shouldn't have assumed in the first place..." THIS is not a valid enough reason to get away with it. Be responsible. PLEASE. If you are NOT planning on courting her or pursuing her, watch your words. More importantly WATCH YOUR ACTIONS. Think twice about what you do/say around a girl. Treat her like a sister. That way, she doesn't end up thinking you mean something else. If you don't make it clear to us ladies what your real motive is then you can be sure that we'll end up assuming. If we're not hearing it from you then you know who we'll hear it from? Our girlfriends. That usually doesn't help..because we don't know any better. If you put it out there, then at least we know it's strictly platonic. We really shouldn't have to question what you mean. If you're a decent guy then your actions will be consistent with your motives.

Message to all the girls out there: If you are ANYTHING like me... stop overthinking! Stop overreacting. Stop assuming. Don't take his caring words and promises too seriously. Don't be drawn in by his charm. Don't think he's all about to get up on it. If he hasn't said anything then DON'T think anything more of it. In short, just try to think of your heart and salvage as much of it as possible by NOT getting caught up so easily.

You know what our worst habit is? Talking to each other about a guy situation and egging each other on about the "feel good" vibes. We live for those "fluffy heart-to-heart" moments. We DIE for those coffee dates where we can just share our latest fling because we know we're going to get a "YOU GO GIRL, DO YOUR THANG!!" kind of reply. Nothing is wrong with being supportive as long as we remind eachother to be cautious. I know it can kill the mood sometimes, but we have GOT to do this more for eachother. Help a sister out by allowing her to see the situation for what it is instead of adding frills and flowers that come with our advice column conversations. OH YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I MEAN! 

Nothing blinds us more than a guy whose charm has engulfed our being. This is where we really need to stick it out.

Sadly I have a very vivid memory. I don't forget easily. All pivotal life changing moments have been the result mostly because of negative experiences. They are all marked on my skin like the carvings on a tree. Yup, just point to one and I can summarize that event by using just ONE word, or a name to be more exact. One name for every major event. One name for every wake up call. Guy name. I'm not proud of this but sadly there aren't enough fingers on both my hands to count them all.

I'm not saying this to put myself on a pedastal. I'm not saying this because I'm proud of myself for being emotionally involved with x-amount of guys. The only reason I mention this is because like so many (teenage) girls out there, from a very young age I looked to the men in my life for validation. It is something I struggled with growing up, and even at twenty-three it is something that I still battle with constantly.

Guys, do you understand how important you are in the lives of all the girls in your life? Do you know the repercussions of every conversation, every text message, every facebook post, every tweet, every personal encounter? If you DO NOT think it matters how you speak and/or communicate to a girl then you need a serious wake up call. Now more than ever, this world needs real men. Men who are responsible. Men who know how to show affection and care to opposite sex without leading them on.

Do we point our fingers at Eve because she was so busy assuming and reading in between the lines?

OR....

Do we point at Adam because he was too careless with his words?

We're programmed to express ourselves in as little as 140 characters. Social media has ruined the art of conversation. People just don't care about what they say anymore. People aren't used to giving out explanations for their actions. Everyone just figures it's "common sense". So who's to blame in this whole emotional circus?

If boys would be men, would girls be ladies?

I'm still trying to figure out what "guarding your heart" means. If someone has a guide, please fwd it to my email. I'll gladly take it. Today's vibe is totally off, and you know what? I still have my downtown days despite the "high on life" streak I've been lately.

I'm writing this from a confused and vulnerable space right now. That much I will admit. I don't have to  understand myself all the time. I don't need to be tough all the time. Like everything else I should just continue to lift up to the Lord whatever is on my mind. He hasn't denied me answers yet. Now's not the time to doubt Him.

"The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still."

ㅡExodus 14:14